The Basics

Although often overlooked or grouped with mental health in the overall health discussion, our emotional health is a separate part of our well-being that is important and deserves to be understood.

Your emotional health is the condition of your feelings.

Can you identify your emotions? How do you deal with the extreme feelings that arise during stress? Are you able to use your feelings as tools to enhance your quality of life?

The Part It Plays

Our emotions are communicators.

They provide valuable information to our body, mind, and soul.

For example, if there’s a hungry lion chasing us, fear pumps adrenaline through our body while driving our legs to run and our thoughts to focus on forming escape plans.

Also, feeling a lack of motivation, lonely, or inadequate could be our emotions telling us something is wrong at the soul level. We as humans need love, connection, and purpose to thrive and when we don’t get those things, our emotions let us know.

Problems arise when we don’t know how to handle the difficult emotions, especially when they occur too often.

Most of us aren’t taught how to identify our feelings or think through why they’re occurring. We just know when we don’t feel good and then do what we can to feel better.

Often times however this leads to drugs, alcohol, eating disorders, addictions, binge-watching shows, or whatever else helps to temporarily self-soothe, numb the pain, and pause distressing mental battles.

Constantly avoiding and distracting is no way to live, which is why taking care of our emotional health is such a crucial part of our overall health.

By building emotional self-awareness and stress management skills, we can develop resilience and live healthy lives even in the midst of hardship.

What I’m Sharing

Growing up, I didn’t know how to identify my feelings. When difficult emotions came up, I used to get mad at myself for feeling those things and would stuff them in, deny their existence, and tell both myself and everyone else that I was “okay” until I forgot about them.

However my adolescent years were not easy. After multiple moves, cancer and sickness in the family, the passing of close family members, and an abusive relationship with an adult towards the end of my high school years, there was a lot I was trying to stuff in, get over, and forget.

When I started college, things started to feel better because I was in a new environment with a fresh start. However after my second year, another traumatic incident landed me in therapy because I was so numb that I felt “okay” when I clearly wasn’t.

I’ve come a long way since then.

My desire is to help you learn how to unpack, label, and just feel your emotions so that you can hear what they’re communicating and use it for your advantage.

By taking a step back and reflecting on what we are feeling, we’re able to open windows into our mind and soul.

Feelings are not always true. By observing them without judgement, we can respond in thoughtful and wise ways that are less likely to cause harm.


In my emotional health posts, you’ll find content including:

March 21, 2020